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Is it normal to want a child at age 21?

Recently, I was a child wanting more than ever. I do not know why, and I never really felt that before. It's weird because I know I should wait at least 3 more years until I even try, but something in me always tells me I really want a child. Is this normal? I recently bought a house in early January, and also got engaged later this month. I work in the field of nuclear engineering and my fiance has a 23 Motorsports shop. So technically we are ready financially and a very stable relationship. We are both very mature, have a career and have a 3 bedroom house with a huge yard. I think that everything else is in place, except for one child may be driving me crazy. Is this normal? How can I control this desire for a child? (We already have two dogs that are almost like children)

Its interesting that you say you "should" wait at least three more years. This means that you feel a sort of obligation to wait any longer, as if you are trying to deal with a kind of social norm / morality rather than on your own initiative. The truth is, most people end up having children (in this day and age) in their twenties and thirties because a) they are not financially stable until this point in their life, b) many people do not want a stable relationship before 28, let alone a child, and / or lack the maturity to do so and / or c) are still in college or have just graduated and want to focus on career / studies. Sometimes people will be unable to communicate with others really want children at a younger age a little rare these days and will try to push these people into negative thinking about parenthood, as they do. The big question is, what do you want? What is your bride want? You both sound like you're in a great place to raise children, and a particularly enviable for someone your age (most people I know who are 21, including me, are still in the middle of college, struggling to make ends meet). If I were you, I talk about this with your fiancée, assuming you have not already, to be sure that you are both on the same page with the issue. The next step for me would be looking for the trials, tribulations, the joys and all possible aspects of having a child to ensure that you are emotionally in a place to do it. Personally, I have ages babysat / sign three weeks to twelve years, and I have yet to try swinging a child, despite all that I endured. It would not be a bad idea for you, or sitting, that is. Maybe you should volunteer some of your time to watch the child of a friend / Baby to give you an idea of ​​what the experience will be like, just to be sure you are prepared and ready for the task. I your age and am also committed, who want a child. If I were in a stable position as you, I'd go for it without question. You should not let the expectations of your peers / society you block to do what will really make you happy. If you want a baby, make a baby!

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